Happiness…where can you find it?

I know I haven’t posted in a while but there have been some life events, drama and “moments of clarity” that have brought me to this topic.  I finally feel like I am getting comfortable in my own skin, doing what I do best but more important, loving ME! Enjoy…

Through human interaction I find that we as people unfairly look for our happiness in others that will satisfy us.  Allow me to explain, most times when you think of the root reason that you hang with friends and/or family it is because they make you happy and satisfy that happiness with action and maybe even personality.  But once in a while, we are disappointed by people’s action when they are just being themselves, nothing personal against you.  We are then unhappy.  I am definitely guilty of this!  I have unfairly placed my wishes on someone who maybe is incapable of doing what I’d like for them to do…this made me unhappy.

But here is the kicker…in order to convince, I lost myself.  I acted in a different manner, did things I normally would NOT do, even changed my mentality.  I did all of those various things to “convince” that someone that they should do things that I wanted to do.  Once again, I lost myself but I also lost my happiness.  I got away from the things that made me smile and at peace with myself.  I am usually one of those people who accept people for who they are and where they are but in this case I wanted someone to do things that were not important to them.

So where do I go for my happiness?  After going through that disappointment for a long time, I went “back to the essence”.  I started to do things again as I would do before I relied on another for happiness.  The things that would put a smile on my face, I got back to.  The happiness that I was looking for was deep inside of me.  We place too much responsibility for our happiness on other people but if we just stop for a second and attempt to create happiness for someone else, it’s a satisfying experience.  If you just be yourself, love yourself and give a little happiness to others, I guarantee you that the happiness that you think of will come out of you and not come at you.

Bottom line, I am always willing to attempt to make others happy around me but I, we cannot compromise our character and/or personality to appease to get what we want from others.  I am happy that I have corrected my error, because by being happy with myself, I can make others happier.

Be blessed, #BeDynamic