#ApeMode

“I was not delivered unto this world in defeat, nor does failure course in my veins. I am not a sheep waiting to be prodded by my shepherd. I am a lion and I refuse to talk, to walk, to sleep with the sheep. I will hear not those who weep and complain, for their disease is contagious. Let them join the sheep. The slaughterhouse of failure is not my destiny…” ~Og Mandino

Test Of A Man

The test of man is the fight that he makes.
The grit that he daily shows.
The way that he stands upon his feet.
And takes life’s numerous bumps and blows.

A coward can smile,
When there’s not to fear.
And nothing, his progress bars.
But it takes a man to stand and cheer.
While the other fellow stars.

It isn’t the victory after all,
But, the fight that a brother makes.
A man when driven against the wall,
takes the blows of fate.

With his head held high.
Bleeding, bruised, and pale!!
Is the man who will win, fate defied,
For he isn’t afraid to fail.

~Author Unknown~

#BeDynamic

Happiness…where can you find it?

I know I haven’t posted in a while but there have been some life events, drama and “moments of clarity” that have brought me to this topic.  I finally feel like I am getting comfortable in my own skin, doing what I do best but more important, loving ME! Enjoy…

Through human interaction I find that we as people unfairly look for our happiness in others that will satisfy us.  Allow me to explain, most times when you think of the root reason that you hang with friends and/or family it is because they make you happy and satisfy that happiness with action and maybe even personality.  But once in a while, we are disappointed by people’s action when they are just being themselves, nothing personal against you.  We are then unhappy.  I am definitely guilty of this!  I have unfairly placed my wishes on someone who maybe is incapable of doing what I’d like for them to do…this made me unhappy.

But here is the kicker…in order to convince, I lost myself.  I acted in a different manner, did things I normally would NOT do, even changed my mentality.  I did all of those various things to “convince” that someone that they should do things that I wanted to do.  Once again, I lost myself but I also lost my happiness.  I got away from the things that made me smile and at peace with myself.  I am usually one of those people who accept people for who they are and where they are but in this case I wanted someone to do things that were not important to them.

So where do I go for my happiness?  After going through that disappointment for a long time, I went “back to the essence”.  I started to do things again as I would do before I relied on another for happiness.  The things that would put a smile on my face, I got back to.  The happiness that I was looking for was deep inside of me.  We place too much responsibility for our happiness on other people but if we just stop for a second and attempt to create happiness for someone else, it’s a satisfying experience.  If you just be yourself, love yourself and give a little happiness to others, I guarantee you that the happiness that you think of will come out of you and not come at you.

Bottom line, I am always willing to attempt to make others happy around me but I, we cannot compromise our character and/or personality to appease to get what we want from others.  I am happy that I have corrected my error, because by being happy with myself, I can make others happier.

Be blessed, #BeDynamic

“MAN”ifesto!

**WARNING: Today’s entry is an excerpt from a long email that I received almost 3 years ago.  It’s a good piece that is very empowering for men (which we don’t see very often).  Please enjoy.  Be blessed, #BeDynamic.

Okay, I’ve been noticing an influx of new members asking certain questions, like “What should I do about my girlfriend?”, “How do I attract women?”, and even “Is my d*ck long enough to satisfy a woman?” In the end, I wonder… W-T-F?!?! Seriously, bros, I’m not going to go out and take away your man-points. Instead, I’ll go off on a tangent on how to increase your personal manliness and self respect. It all starts here:

(A) Learn to respect yourself as a man. Self-confidence cannot be over-emphasized. If you are wondering if you have enough self-confidence, then you don’t. Granted, it’s not an easy thing to learn how to increase; there’s no one way to go about it. The only thing I can tell you is to go achieve something for yourself. Do something that you feel is worthwhile and respectable. If you have a lack of confidence in yourself, it’s because you haven’t given yourself a reason to have any. It all starts there.

(B) Don’t give a flying f-ck what anyone says about you, unless they’ve somehow earned your respect. Ever. You know why I don’t give a crap about man-points? Because I’d only accept them from very few people in my life, who’ve earned the right to have their opinions matter to me. If anyone criticizes you on anything, (like a complete stranger, some chick, or someone you just met) and they haven’t earned the *right* to do so in your eyes, screw ’em. That’s part of self-respect, in the essence that you only respect the opinions of yourself, and those whom you deem worthy of it or more wise than you are. Never let any random dumb-f-ck drag you down needlessly.

(C) Be of some meaning to this world. A man truly only serves one of two things: either himself, which carries no honor… anyone can please their own whims easily, and it only leads to more and more un-manly greed. Either that, or he can choose to serve something higher, whatever he feels that is. Do not dedicate your life solely to yourself; find something bigger than yourself to serve and work for in life. That also leads back to self-respect; you must recognize yourself as a worthy addition to whatever you choose to serve in that respect.

(D) Understand that women have a completely different role in life, and are really NOT THAT BAD. I know that this one may be hard to swallow – hell, a lot of women don’t even get it themselves, what with the feminist movement and their crazy emotions and all – but understand and know that we really are, and have been, the world’s natural leaders. All men who are truly worthwhile show their alpha tendencies from time to time, some more than others; however, very few women can achieve this same form of mindset. And, what is the key to an alpha mindset? Like I said… self respect. If you have a good amount of respect for yourself, you won’t care what unworthy women think about you… because you know *they* are the ones missing out, not you.

So, for everyone in these forums, especially those who are wondering about themselves, this is the best advice I can give. In closing, a huge d-ck doesn’t make you a man. Somehow getting a woman doesn’t make you a man. NOTHING makes you a man except YOURSELF, and RESPECTING YOURSELF. It’s up to YOU to gather the confidence in yourself necessary to move your own mountains, part your own seas, and truly make the world your bitch. After all, you are all men, and it is your birthright… it is up to you to claim it.

“The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of #attitude on life.” ~Anonymous

I don’t know exactly where I found that quote but it is a direct reflection of me and my growth.

#Attitude is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness, or skill. It will make or break a company…a church…a home. What you do in life is a direct result of the #attitude you have (and display)!

The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the #attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past. We cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We spend a lot of time trying to change people and what they do but we can change our reactions to them and what they do. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our #attitude. We have all seen or heard the quote “life is 10% what happens to me, and 90% how I react to it.”   I know, it is easier said than done but it takes work.  We have to deliberately choose to look at the positive side of things realizing problems are really challenges with an opportunity to grow.  The bottom line is, we are in charge of our #attitudes, so take charge.

Be blessed, #bedynamic

First Line of Defense

Forrest Griffin & Ty chilling at the Grappling Tournament

I had a blast at the UFC Fan Expo in Boston which included me getting a FREE ticket to UFC 118!  While attending the expo’s many attractions, I got all of the fighters’ perks (Free shirts, hats, supplements, bags etc.) even chilled with them in down time.  I realized that I got all of the attention because I looked like one of them, an MMA fighter.  It made me think about a book I read “Restoring the Male Image” by Alex O. Ellis.  In the book, Mr. Ellis talks about the impact of your image (from attire to walk) at times can be your first line of defense.  Wear a suit, people will initially treat you like a businessman, wear baggy jeans & baseball cap people will initially treat you like a thug (in many cases) and in my case wear a tight fighter t-shirt & flip-flops and you’ll get treated like a MMA fighter (in UFC arenas).

When you go to a job interview or business meeting, people decide whether they want to work with you within the first 15 seconds, without any type of conversation.  The point is this, if you ever wondered why people treat you a certain way upon meeting you, they judged you based on your appearance.  I am not saying that this is right but as Earth Wind & Fire says “that’s the way, of the world”.  In this world of micro-branding, if you want the part, you have to look the part, play the part then be the part.  I think the next UFC event I attend, I’ll wear a suit….nah, I liked getting free stuff.  Be blessed, #bedynamic!

If by Rudyard Kipling

Once in a while, I tend to whisper some of the words to this poem in my sons’ ears…exposing them to the difficult balance of being a man.

If

If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you;
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or, being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
Or, being hated, don’t give way to hating,
And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise;

If you can dream – and not make dreams your master;
If you can think – and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with triumph and disaster
And treat those two imposters just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to broken,
And stoop and build ’em up with wornout tools;

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breath a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: “Hold on”;

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with kings – nor lose the common touch;
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you;
If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run –
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
And – which is more – you’ll be a Man my son!

#bedynamic

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